First of all, I want to start this post by saying HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to my sweet hubby. We have been together for 9 years, and today is our 6th wedding anniversary. I love him more today than ever. He is my rock. He is my biggest fan. He is my everything.

Our relationship is by no means perfect but it's pretty dang close if I do say so myself. We respect each other, we communicate well, we laugh and love and live life to the fullest in every way we can. We make a good team as parents and I know that even after our kids are grown and out on their own that I will still be just as happy because I truly married my best friend.

We have had so many people over the years ask us how do we make it, how do we not argue all the time, how are we so laid back, etc etc etc.. And my answer is always the same. Our number one rule in our relationship is to keep our business OUR BUSINESS

Seems simple right? Well for us, yes it is. But unfortunately, we have seen this play out so horribly for those who cannot seem to do just that.

Now this should go without saying, but I am going to say it anyway.. I am not a relationship expert. I don't claim to be. I just know what works for our marriage. And after 9 years and 2 kids, I would say (for us) it's a pretty legit rule to live by.

Let's just say, for example, that me and the hubby get in an argument over something petty. He says what he's gotta say, I say I what I gotta say and then it's completely over. Now, in our real life arguments that is exactly how it goes down. Over and done with. You will never ever hear or see me running to call my mom or sisters or anyone else to run my mouth about him. Same goes for him. He never calls his family or friends just to talk about me and put our problems on blast. Why? Seems innocent enough to want to talk to your family about your problems... Eh, not really. What we have seen happen in other people's relationships is the people that are in the relationship get over the nonsense pretty quickly and are back to being all gravy. But once those people have told every soul they can think of what a horrible person their significant other is, those people don't forget. They can't just unhear or unread what you've said or written about the other. The damage is done. 

We are seriously the world's worst - or best?- about having a petty argument and then laughing our butts off 10 minutes later over something else completely unrelated. So what good would bashing the other person do? In our case, 10 times out of 10 we resolve whatever the issue is quickly and move on. In the 9 years that we have been together, if we had told people about every argument we ever had then who knows if we would still be together? His family would probably hold grudges against me and mine against him.. Over the most petty things! That would not make it very easy to be together, knowing that the other's family looks at you in a different light. And for what? Your 5 minutes of venting?

Nope. Uh uh. Not gonna happen here. We handle our problems and move on. My family loves him, his family loves me.. Our families even get along with each other! That is such a blessing in our lives. So many people that we encounter can't say the same. I can't imagine feeling hostility from my in-laws towards me or vice versa for Houston with my family. 

We are truly blessed to have each other and the trust in each other that our business will stay our business. Like I said before, this is just what works for us. Each relationship is unique. 

But really, what harm could actually come from refraining to speak badly about your partner to others?