I am beyond over seeing women bash each other for either being a stay-at-home mom or a working mom. Social media is completely overrun with the holier than thou attitudes from both sides of the spectrum. Yes, the women who want/have to work see your snarky comments about how they are "letting someone else raise their kid." And yes, the women who stay at home see your comments about how they "have it made" and how "you could do it with your eyes closed." Both sides need to do each other a favor and SHUT. UP.

I am currently a stay-at-home mom. I love it and I wouldn't change a thing. I realize how blessed I am to be able to raise my children and be there for every milestone in their lives. I don't take that for granted at all. In the place that we are in our lives, me staying at home just works for us. Period. I don't need any other excuse. It's a choice my husband and I made about what is best for our family. Contrary to some narrow-minded beliefs, I'm not a lazy, bon-bon eating, talk-show-watching, pajama-wearing bum. Quite the opposite.

On the flip side, there are times when I could absolutely lose my mind. The worst part (for me) is not being able to have a sometimes much-needed adult conversation with, well anyone. I'm not a play-date kind of mom who has tons of SAHM friends. I don't have coworkers to shoot the breeze with. Nada. Just long days full of no-no's, please & thank you's. That's about as much as my 10 month old comprehends. Then with my 5 year old, there is the "Finish your homework." "Don't touch that." "How about not picking your sister up." "No, you may not skip your bath tonight." Lots of adult-free time leaves me full of unexpressed thoughts/emotions that just pile up inside. It's an aspect of being a SAHM that some people overlook.

I have also been a working mom. I had so much fun working outside the home. I loved being able to have something that was for me. Most days, I couldn't wait to get to work. I loved my job and I loved being able to do my own thing. My coworkers became some of my absolute best friends and it was fun to have a social life again! I enjoyed staff meetings and company events. I felt appreciated and validated. Working 40 (sometimes more) hours a week was rewarding in ways that I can't explain. 

Being a working mom was also a sad time in my life. Since I worked 2nd shift hours (2pm-9:30pm), I missed going to the park. I missed dinner time. I missed bath time fun. I missed bedtime stories and sweet snuggles. I hated coming home and having to sneak a kiss from my sweet baby because he was already asleep. I didn't work as late on weekends, but I remember times when I didn't feel like doing much with my own kid after coming in from work. (Did I mention this job was working with kids? LOTS of kids. Which left me not in the greatest mood towards my own when I got home.) When I got pregnant with The Princess, we decided I would stay home again, and focus on our babies 100%.

So SAHM, I know your story. I know why you do it. I know that even though it is a blessing, it is also very hard. Not just the kind of hard that people assume either. Working moms, I know your story too. You are amazing for working hard at your job and also being a mother. Balancing both isn't easy and it's time that you are given credit instead of criticism.

As a former working mom and a current SAHM, I can tell you with certainty that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. So let's stop assuming that these moms have it easier than those moms. Chances are, you have no idea what you are talking about. There are issues far beyond what you see on the surface - for both groups. 

Being a mother is the greatest gift of all, working or not. There are plenty of women who would give anything to be a mother, so how about those of us blessed enough to have children, stop being so self-righteous and critical of each other and start being more uplifting and understanding.